Tuesday, November 25, 2014

Innocent Until Proven Guilty? Not Anymore

I rarely weigh in on controversial issues because I hate conflict and I don't see very many examples of civil discourse on those kinds of matters. Today however I do offer a few observations in regards to the Grand Jury decision in Ferguson, MO. Let me say at the outset, I am of course sorry that Michael Brown died. The death of a young person is tragic, no matter what the cause. However, it seems to me that the people who are now rioting and the people who are crying 'injustice' did not want justice, they wanted vengeance. They were never going to be happy with anything less than an indictment for murder. Their minds were made up.

There is no longer a presumption of being innocent until proven guilty in this country.

At some point I have to trust that the twelve person jury made the right decision. They saw and heard evidence I will never see or hear. If you disagree with the decision, that's fine. We are a country that at least says we have the right to disagree. But don't pout, don't riot, don't use this as an excuse to throw a tantrum. Work for change, work for truth, but do it respectfully.

Saturday, November 22, 2014

Christmas Spirit - I've Got It!

Bing Crosby - he's got that magic touch. I've got the Christmas Spirit!

Monday, November 17, 2014

My Christmas Wish

It was cold, wet, and rainy today. The rain is about gone, but the cold is here for a few days and getting colder. People delighted in telling me today that it would be 19 degrees in the morning. I think they are wrong, I think it's only supposed to be 24 -and 19 the following morning. But at those temps - 5 degrees won't make much difference in how it feels when I go out to the car.

I feel a sense of panic trying to creep up on me in spite of the plans I made earlier about how I would approach the holidays this year. Thanksgiving is next week and I don't have a menu made, or even know for sure who is coming and when lunch/dinner will be. And then it will be Christmas.

Last year I felt like I missed part of Christmas. The mood didn't seem right, and I hate feeling like there is a checklist to be gone over and success means checking all the items on the list. I want to enjoy, revel in, embrace the holidays. In spite of my intent - it's hanging around the edges threatening me again.

I know the "Reason for the Season" and also the "true meaning of Christmas" - but at the risk of sounding shallow, selfish, and unreasonable - I want more.

I don't need stuff. But I want my family to want to be together. I want my children to come give me hugs unexpectedly, to know what kind of scent I like, I want to know what they want. I don't want to give them money for Christmas. I want everyone to like what I give them and to know they like it. I'm not talking about spending a lot of money on people (that's just not going to happen this year), but to connect with each other with fun and pleasure. I want everyone to set aside their own pet peeves and at least fake it in front of mom. I want grace and mercy to abound. I want everyone to give everyone else the benefit of the doubt. To assume the best.

Now, lest you think my family is a big, brawling, hate-mongering, fighting bunch - I need to explain that is not so. They are sweet, loving, and for the most part play nice with each other when they are together. The problem is . . . mom (me) knows too much. I know what drives each of them nuts about the others. I know what actions, what conversations, what attitudes are often triggers for others. I know who's stewing under the surface, I know who thinks the other one is being rude, I'm sure there is plenty I don't know - but I know plenty. And I feel responsible for it all.

I want to fix it all - even when I know that is not in any way either my responsibility, or even possible for me to do.

I can't make any of this happen. But I know what I can do. I can do all the things I want others to do. I can assume the best of others. I can set aside my own pet peeves. I can choose to let grace and mercy flow through me. I can act nice even when I don't want to. I can make the extra effort to make someone else happy.

My Christmas wish is to be the person I'd like others to be. I think it just got a little warmer . . .
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